Thursday, 22 January 2015

Mummy's milk

The pain as he was finding his latch was almost unbearable in the first few days. We went through some hurdles but they didn't stop us. Not even when the 3-month-old Finn suddenly decided he would only feed from one side.
 
On we went, a bit lopsided but still there.
 
If I had to describe peace, I would think about a child feeding on his mother's milk, gazing up at her lovingly.

15 months old



Day feeds, nap feeds, all-night-long feeds, bath feeds, tent feeds, airplane feeds, sling feeds, car feeds, lying in the garden feeds... I even remember one time while he was sitting on the potty.
 
3 years old. The last feed.
 
When the latch-related pain came back, a few months before his 3rd birthday, I knew the end was nearing. A natural end, but one that would need a bit of help from mummy. Because even though he couldn't latch on properly anymore, he wasn't going to give up his most favourite thing in the world.
 
One month ago today, we ended our breastfeeding journey.
 
I am pleased at how this breastfeeding thing went. It wasn't perfect but I wouldn't wish for anything different.
 
Are you breastfeeding your child(ren)? How old are they? I would love to hear about your breastfeeding experience.

9 comments:

  1. Could you please elaborate on how you helped the process along? Did you explain to him that you would be stopping soon?

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    1. Hi Tara,
      My main problem were the night feeds which had become frequent again around 2.5 year old. We sleep next to each other so he would come in the double bed, lift up my top and help himself. It would always wake me up and often I couldn't fall asleep again easily. So I explained that to him and told him it was a problem for me. I told him that if he wanted milk during the night, he could drink from the water bottle under his pillow, and he should not wake me up. He could have milk in the morning. For a while I had to remind him to do that but he was always fine with it. He continued feeding during the day for a few weeks and then stopped naturally. Are you trying to stop breastfeeding? How old is your child?

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  2. My daughter Lotus recently turned two and is still drinking LOTS of mummy's milk. Sometimes lately it has been hurting when she does not latch on properly so I have been telling her " that hurts mummy. Please open your mouth wider". Sometimes she listens, other times I have to tell her very firmly to stop and try again.

    I always wanted to let her self wean but she still drinks so much mummy's milk that it looks like that is not going to happen any time soon. I am trying to encourage her to eat more food by her spending more time away from me (with her dad and grandparents). Though at this stage it doesn't seem to be working as she hangs out for a big feed as soon as she comes back to me. I have not yet restricted night time feeds but have been thinking about it as i would appreciate a bit more sleep.

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    1. Hi Elizabeth, thanks for your comment! I have found with Finn that the amount of milk he drank didn't necessarily have anything to do with his readiness to stop. Just before I actively tried stopping (read my reply to the previous comment for details) he was drinking lots, but he really was ready to stop. We had tried to stop previously at regular intervals and it had never worked so I had decided to wait a bit more. You could always try it with Lotus and adapt depending on how she reacts. Good luck and I hope you manage to get more sleep in the near future as sleep deprivation can be really tough to manage.

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    2. Thanks Elsa. Your comments are helpful. I am planning a similar night time tactic sometime soon. I was initially even thinking of this weekend but have decided to give it just a bit longer though as I want to give her some more time to learn to eat more during the day so that she will have a fuller tummy for sleeping and not get so hungry during the night. Just this last week I have started telling her that if she asks for mummies milk at meal times she has to eat at least 5 more spoonfuls or a big bite of each food item on her plate. Although there is usually a bit of complaining she does follow through when she realises that I mean what I say. This is a big step for us as in the past she would often not even touch her meal or have only one or two bites and then come to me for mummies milk. So far the five spoonfuls or a bite of each food is working well so I plan to slowly increase the amount that she needs to eat before mummies milk until hopefully she is eating a substantial meal three times a day and therefore will not be so hungry at night. Then I will feel more comfortable about putting into place an 'only water during the night' rule.

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  3. I like your description of peace, Elsa. And I keep hoping I can breastfeed Cara as long as you have too.

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    1. Breastfeeding your child is just wonderful, isn't it? Thank you for your comment.

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  4. my little girl's 4 and still breastfeeding before naps and sleeping hour. we've told her it'll be ok until she looses a tooth max. i love those moments but it's was exhausting when she did it in the middle of our nights...

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  5. Wow - I am not alone:) Adrian will be 3 y in October, and I am concerned that at this point it might turn into something beyond nurturing since he is not really getting any milk (for few months now). He is so big, and this connection with breastfeeding does not seem natural anymore... I am worried it might turned into unhealthy interest. Were you concerned at all besides the pain of latching? Best wishes and good luck with the delivery of the new baby!!! Anya

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